People & Pedestals -a lesson in owning our values
Earlier this year I had an epiphany about the responsibility I needed to take around those that influence me. The thought came out like this and I threw it on Twitter:
You can’t control who comes in and out of your life, but you can control the pedestals they stand on. #choosewisely
I know from the onset this seems like a sad realization, but really it has helped clarify a thinking pattern that was off balance for me. I’ve learned so much from about the role I play in keeping my pedestals in place and people in place too.
Fundamentally, we need to accept people are human; not robots, God, or super heroes. Humans and are inherently flawed and thats what makes them unique and beautiful. Flawed doesn’t mean they aren’t lovely it just means, you have to allow that characteristic of imperfection to exist in your appreciation for them. Here is why…
Well, if I can’t control the people that I allow to disappoint me, then what am I choosing? You my friend get to choose the pedestals and all their characteristics. What are our pedestals? I would say in general, our pedestals are the things we value the most in others. I’ll give you a few samples of my own professional pedestals:
I’ve met lots of people who stand on all of these pedestals in my life — so many I’m thankful for (you know who you are), but know this; the higher the pedestal, the harder the fall. While you don’t control or dictate the people you meet, or who you get introduced to, and sometimes, who you work with, we do control our response to these events appropriately. What we do have some say in, is the responsibility we have to take inventory of our values and discern if they are out of balance.